Engagement vs redirection to create emotional safety

It's often said that children's negative behaviors occur due to either the child is hoping to get something he or she wants, or the child is hoping to avoid something he or she doesn't want. That said, it is often overlooked that when a child becomes upset, it is very often -- if not always -- becasue not only is he not doing things his way, but also because at his deepest core level, he is not feeling the balance within himself that he needs to feel his best: his most safe self. This is no small thing.