It's often said that children's negative behaviors occur due to either the child is hoping to get something he or she wants, or the child is hoping to avoid something he or she doesn't want. That said, it is often overlooked that when a child becomes upset, it is very often -- if not always -- becasue not only is he not doing things his way, but also because at his deepest core level, he is not feeling the balance within himself that he needs to feel his best: his most safe self. This is no small thing.
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Practice Positive Discipline
February 1, 2017
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January 18, 2017
The Global Initiative is delighted to present our annual global report tracking progress towards universal prohibition of corporal punishment to December 2016. Marking the 10th anniversary of the UN World Report on Violence against Children, this report celebrates the significant progress made in the last decade and highlights the shortcomings; it sets out what still needs to be done to end all corporal punishment of children, and how to do it. |
January 18, 2017
A child's ability to form healthy self-validation is a vital goal of child development. In fact, a child's capacity for self-validation has everything to do with the development of emotional safety -- the overarching development goal of childhood. |
Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
January 31, 2017
What are your children learning from how you and your partner resolve conflict? |
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January 23, 2017
Attachment parenting is often -- to those unfamiliar with the term -- viewed as simply a fad, but in truth, every parent is involved in a form of parenting that is associated with attachment, whether healthy or not. Get a sneak peek into the pages of the Attachment Matters ebook, available only through Attachment Parenting International. |
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January 18, 2017
Through this webinar, we learn how the quality of parent-child attachment impacts your child's brain development, ability to form healthy relationships, and resiliency throughout life -- as well how incredibly important it is for parents to become more self-aware of their own upbringing in order to be more connected with their children. |
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January 17, 2017
What does your marriage teach your child about intimacy? |
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January 13, 2017
Learn why people feel the need to tell you how to raise your baby, or criticize your parenting -- though realize that, in the end, you will choose however you'd like to raise your child. |
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December 30, 2016
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Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
January 30, 2017
#1) "The truth is, most children are aware of many 'private' exchanges their parents assume are beyond their comprehension -- a small gesture of comfort, a hostile glance. While your children may not be talking to you about what they are learning, they are drawing conclusions about 'what happens' to people who are married." Read more of the API Reads program's Top 5 Quotes for January. |
January 2, 2017
However you feel about making new year resolutions, this very early part of the year at least serves as an annual reminder that we need to -- at some point -- take time to reflect on our lives, check where we are on our goals, and continue making plans moving forward. Here are 8 examples of new year parenting resolutions. |
December 27, 2016
Samantha Gray, executive director of the group Attachment Parenting International, said it's important to remind ourselves about how much the holiday break means to children. "Try to see it from their point of view; they have a lot of anticipation about it," she said. "Then, planning a few things, don't over plan, but have a couple of kind of 'milestones.' So, that kind of thing helps us make the most of the days, because actually by the end of it, it's over faster than you knew." |
Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
January 29, 2017
AAP’s revised policy statement, “SIDS and Other Sleep-Related Infant Deaths: Updated 2016 Recommendations for a Safe Infant Sleeping Environment,” is its latest update on safe infant sleep, reinforcing many earlier recommendations, adjusting others in light of new information, and bringing AAP and LLLI into closer alignment. |
January 11, 2017
I am awake writing this during the biologically normative and healthy stages of first and second sleep. Research has revealed that right up until the advent of electric light, humans normally experienced 2 distinct segments of sleep. Learn how artificial light and industrialization have not only affected our adult sleep quality but also now dictates that our infant's biological sleep patterns must be "wrong" because they do not fit with our modern concepts of productive time -- and why this isn't just unfair, but downright unhealthy. |
Respond with Sensitivity
January 25, 2017
Separation can be sad for children at different ages and with different temperaments, and is often quite difficult for parents -- sometimes more so for the parents than for the kids! Here are 6 tips to lessen separation anxiety for your children (and yourself!). |
January 20, 2017
We have all been in public and seen an overwhelmed parent losing her temper with her child -- and many of us have been in that position ourselves! It is tough to know how to respond when we witness this happening with another parent. |
January 10, 2017
Enjoy this quote offered through the API Reads program: "Children also tune in to the emotional climate and the sense of well-being between family members. Children watch how you and your partner interact and handle situations together. They then draw conclusions about how married people treat each other, for better or for worse." ~ What Children Learn From Their Parents' Marriage by Judith P. Siegel, PhD |
January 6, 2017
The study of neuroplasticity confirms that when we intentionally and repeatedly focus on "taking in the good," we cause changes in our neurons that shift us away from the innate bias toward always looking for threat. If we can instill the habit of giving thanks, we prepare our children for a life of pleasant contentment. |
January 4, 2017
Although not a new phenomenon, there seems to have been an increase in incidents of racism, sexism, xenophobia, ableism, LGBTQ discrimination, sexual assault, bullying, and hate crimes as of late. As an activist, I feel compellede to get out there and help change the world. As a mother of 3 young boys, I feel immobilized in my desire to be an agent of change by my family obligations -- or am I? Attachment Parenting allows me to contribute to world peace by raising the next generation to fight hate with love and understanding. |
December 29, 2016
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December 28, 2016
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December 28, 2016
New research in epigenetics and neuroscience is giving us an incredible window into our past and a new awareness of how we can change our future. In a sense, we all have a new "superpower." The exciting aspect to all this is that you can change the trajectory of your family tree, if you want to, by becoming more conscious and intentional in your life and in your parenting. Big or small changes can make huge differences. |
December 28, 2016
Among the strong emotions we feel, shame is among the most painful. It is a feeling that one, as an individual, is not "good enough." Here to shed more light on emotional trauma -- how it happens and how to heal -- is Dr. Daniela F. Sieff, PhD, in the latest issue of Attached Family. |
December 22, 2016
The holidays are an exciting time for children. The gifts, the lights, the decorations, the food, the family gathering -- the list goes on and on. But in the hustle and bustle, it's easy to lose sight of the values we want to pass down to our children, such as strengthening and maintaining a strong parent-child attachment. Here are 10 tips to nurture attachment with our children during the holidays. |
December 22, 2016
How do you feel it was like for your great-grandmother to be admonished for instinctively loving her child, only to be told that her instinct is exactly what would damage that child? Read more about the history of parenting advice since 1928 and how that antiquated advice still lives on today, confusing parents' instincts to nurture their children. |
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January 16, 2017
Today we remember Martin Luther King, Jr., the American minister-turned-civil rights activist whose legacy stretches even into the realms of parenting -- if you consider that many of his quotes centered on peace and harmony can be aptly applied to homes that strive to raise their children with peace, warmth, trust, and nonviolence. |
December 31, 2016
2016 has been a fulfilling year for API. Although the very best parent support is found in local API Support Groups, our evidence-informed magazine articles, blog posts, teleseminars, ebooks, and other resources also provide regular pulses of support to millions of families worldwide seeking information on raising their children with strong attachments. Of all the posts published by API this year, here are the top 10 of 2016. |
December 30, 2016
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Provide Consistent and Loving Care
January 12, 2017
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Use Nurturing Touch
December 23, 2016
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