Over the last several years, I have been reading Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's classic book, Nonviolent Communication, and sharing some of his pearls of wisdom with my adult sons. Oh, how I wish I had this book when they were very young! And how I wish I had the wisdom to model this kind of communication for my children as we were dealing with sibling rivalry and other normal challenges of family life.
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Respond with Sensitivity
September 9, 2014
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September 8, 2014
Time passed, and she was going to her father's house. I wanted to encourage her to stay. I wanted to keep her from him, but I knew that it wasn't my place. As her mother, it is not my job to keep her from her father. Its my job to give her what she needs to heal and let go. |
September 3, 2014
Everyone likes to win, and little kids are no exception. But you cannot win them all, and losing throws young children (and older ones) into a tailspin. How can you help your child learn how to lose? |
September 2, 2014
How two young mothers, who were also special education teachers and La Leche League Leaders, went from having their own little support group to founding a global nonprofit organization with the vision of helping parents achieve a more compassionate relationship with their children through Attachment Parenting. |
August 28, 2014
Parents who try to understand their baby's babbling let their infants know they can communicate, which leads to children forming complex sounds and using language more quickly. The study's results showed infants whose mothers attended more closely to their babbling vocalized more complex sounds and develop language skills sooner. |
August 27, 2014
Wonder in the first years of life creates the roots of self-motivation. It is the foundation of a personal connection to the world, the nexus of the self. Wonder cannot be scripted. It arrives unbidden. And while we cannot call forth wonder just when we want it, we can be expectant. The best a person can do is to be always listening, always watching, open to the possibility that something amazing might come our way, aware that it is possible, or even likely, that the marvelous will arise out of the commonplace, amid the happenings of everyday life. |
August 26, 2014
For me, Attachment Parenting has been like a life preserver in a cultural sea that is constantly in turbulance and posing many dangers. |
August 25, 2014
The processes of first finding our sadness and then our tempering elements are human processes that help us keep our perspective on life and develop the resourcefulness adn resilience we need to adapt to the circumstances that come our way. In helping children to grow up, our thinking must be oriented toward supporting these processes and paying attention to the signs of them becoming stuck. |
August 22, 2014
Over the past five years, my parenting style has shifted as my children have grown. Their needs have changed, so the way I relate to them has also changed. However, one thing that hasn't changed is my commitment to maintaining a secure attachment. |
August 19, 2014
You never know when a precious family memory will start out as a seeming disaster! Many years ago, my husband and I had been planning a special evening out with his boss. I bought a new dress and carefully arranged childcare with a trusted family friend. For some reason, our 5-year-old son did not want to be left that night. I wondered if we'd have to cancel. |
Other
September 8, 2014
Many scientific researchers will tell you that the ACE Study is specifically for at-risk populations, people who have multiple risk factors such as extreme poverty, severe mental illness, etc., to a point where people are unable to escape the chronic and toxic stress in their lives. But Jane Ellen Stevens of ACEs Too High’s journalistic research delves into the idea–and I believe, fact–that ACEs are not limited to the most disadvantaged of our society, that the effect of ACEs can be felt through all socioeconomic statuses of Western culture. |
September 1, 2014
The needs of the developing human brain trump physical growth, research suggests. |
Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
September 7, 2014
Alice Proujansky said she felt prepared before giving birth to her son in 2012. By then, she had already photographed nearly 15 births in the United States and around the world and said she felt ready for the transformative experience. |
September 6, 2014
Mothers who live in neighborhoods with plenty of grass, trees or other green vegetation are more likely to deliver at full term and their babies are born at higher weights, compared to mothers who live in urban areas that aren't as green, a new study shows. |
September 6, 2014
The first international standards for fetal growth and newborn size have been developed by a global team led by scientists. Now, for the first time, all 120 million babies born each year across the world can be assessed using a common set of standards, reflecting how babies should grow when mothers have adequate health, nutrition, medical care and socioeconomic status. |
September 2, 2014
Becoming a mother has taught me the real meaning of "living in the moment." Before I became pregnant with our daughter Zara, I really thought living in the moment meant squeezing every possible drop of productivity out of my day. I am finding courage to let go of rigidly held agendas and just listen. |
September 1, 2014
Editor's PickTulane University psychiatrist Dr. Stacy Drury has been given $2.4 million by the National Institutes of Health to test a provocative new theory - how well children bond with a parent in the first year of life leaves lasting genetic protection, potentially shielding them from disease risks well into adulthood. |
August 31, 2014
Editor's PickThe MommyMeds app, from the InfantRisk Center at the Texas Tech University Health Science Center, gives new and expectant mothers a fast and convenient way to access evidence-based information about medications and their safety during pregnancy and breastfeeding. The app is based on Dr. Thomas Hale's Medications and Mothers' Milk, considered worldwide to be the authoritative source of medication information for pregnant and breastfeeding patients. Dr. Hale is one of the world's leading experts in perinatal pharmacology. |
August 16, 2014
There's now overwhelming evidence that a child's future health is influenced by more than just their parents' genetic material, and that children born of unhealthy parents will already be pre-programmed for greater risk of poor health, according to researchers. "The reality is, the child doesn't quite start from scratch -- they already carry over a legacy of factors from their parents' experiences that can shape development in the fetus and after birth. Depending on the situation, we can give our children a burden before they've even started life," experts say. |
August 16, 2014
"The reality is, we can now say with great certainty that the child doesn't quite start from scratch – they already carry over a legacy of factors from their parents' experiences that can shape development in the fetus and after birth." |
August 15, 2014
API seeks donated items for annual online auction |
August 15, 2014
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Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
September 5, 2014
My API group had been so meaningful and helpful to me when my first son was very young. I had a real need for the support and friendship I found within the group, and as my son got older, I wanted to be able to be more involved with the group. When our leader mentioned that she was looking for others to co-lead, it really felt right for me to take on the role of API Leader. |
September 4, 2014
We've all hear the saying, "It takes a village to raise a child," and it is still true, even in these modern days of computers, mobile phones, dial-a-pizza and TV on demand. In fact, I would say now, more than ever, we all need our little village. |
August 29, 2014
Prior to having children, I was full of ideas about what kids needed and how I would parent. Once I actually became pregnant, the sheer amount of overwhelming love I felt towards my unborn child radically shifted my entire world. My perspective on parenting and children was altered in a way I could not have foreseen prior to my son’s arrival. I realized that all of my ideas were the result of societal influence and the way that I was parented. Once I had this realization, I knew that I wanted something different for my children, which ultimately led me to Attachment Parenting. |
August 15, 2014
Are you a blogger? A photographer? Are you cherished? |
Practice Positive Discipline
September 4, 2014
Editor's PickChildren who are spanked don't have the option to flee or fight – they must submit to the pain and violence without grabbing, blocking, or defending against the assault to their body. Corporal punishment triggers the release of cortisol. |
Provide Consistent and Loving Care
August 28, 2014
Students are back in school and now is the time for parents to develop routines to help their children succeed academically. A university professor says parental involvement, more than income or social status, is a predictor of student achievement. |
August 15, 2014
This month we'll be ending our discussion of Attached at the Heart (2nd edition) by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker. Here are the topics we’ll be discussing:
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Feed with Love and Respect
August 16, 2014
For premature infants, adequate growth while in the neonatal intensive care unit is an indicator of better long-term health and developmental outcomes. Researchers have now successfully incorporated a cream supplement into premature infants' diets that improved their growth outcomes in the NICU. |
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