I know as a mom, I often want to "silver lining" things for my kids. They are struggling and having a hard time, and I want to help them feel better. But Brene Brown of the University of Houston makes an excellent point in that rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection. Instead of silver-lining things to help my kids feel better, I need to meet them where they are with those heavy feelings. I need to sit in the dark with them.