"I really hope I get a tie for Father's Day," said no man ever. Tools, grilling accessories, "World's Best Dad" mugs … are those any better?
What is this day really about? It's to honor the fathers in our lives, right?
This year, instead of honoring the act of fathering that the men in our lives do for their own children, I'd like to honor those fathers who have led us to where we are. The men - fathers, grandfathers, uncles, godfathers, brothers, neighbors - who had an impact on how we now parent.
For all those fathers ... the ones who bounced us, who hugged our boo-boos away, who cuddled and snuggled ... for those who carried us on their shoulders, who who picked us up when we fell, who learned how to braid hair, who showed us how to tie a rope or push a lawnmower ... and yes, even for those who were a bit distant, who spoke with an edge to their voice, or who perhaps even were neglectful ... for every father who had an impact on your life ... he led you to where you are today.
We can't know what went through his mind, what demons he battled, what scars he nursed, what his role models were … no matter what his history, and yours, he guided you, at least in part, to this place. This part of your life where you can be the best parent to your own children. He played some role in showing you what you want for your children, and perhaps what you don't (which sometimes is even more important).
Let's honor the influence of our fathers - in whatever form he took - for the path that he journeyed with you and for the part that he contributed to your life now as a parent: an attached parent, one whose goal is what's best for your children.
Here's to you, Dad/Pop/Daddy/Father/Papa. Thanks for leading us on this path that enabled us to be the best parents that we can be.
Scroll down to see this month's "Editor's Picks," which includes info on Neanderthal weaning, API and the recent controversy about bed-sharing, breastfeeding and mom's heart health, and communication between children and their dads.
