"Nadella asked his top executives to read Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg describes the concept as “a way of being very honest, without any criticism, insults, or put-downs, and without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.” For Redmond, McCracken writes: The gesture signaled that Nadella planned to run the company differently from his well-known predecessors, Bill Gates and Steve Ballmer, and address Microsoft’s long-standing reputation as a hive of intense corporate infighting. . . . The reading assignment “was the first clear indication that Satya was going to focus on transforming not just the business strategy but the culture as well,” says Microsoft president and chief legal officer Brad Smith, a 24-year company veteran."
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Respond with Sensitivity
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Editor's Pick"Human beings have enormous power to enrich life. We can use words to contribute to people’s enjoyment, their wisdom. We can use words that can make life miserable for people. So our words are very powerful. We can touch people in ways that give great pleasure, great nurturing, support. We are powerhouses, and there’s nothing we enjoy doing more than to use that power we have to enrich lives. So isn’t it wonderful that we have this power and the joy it brings when we use it? That’s to be celebrated. Wow! And the more we celebrate that, the less we will be willing to do anything else." ~Marshall B. Rosenberg |
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"Parents really matter. In this study, children who had engaged interested parents, ones who had ambitions for their future, were more likely to escape from a difficult start. "Parents and what they do are really, really important, especially in the first few years of life." ~ Helen Pearson on Lessons from the Longest Study on Human Development |
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Welcome to AP Month 2017 as we celebrate Word Power! Each year AP Month features a different, timely theme around which we invite families to join together and celebrate healthy parenting and happy families. Our themes are generally timely and this one no less so as we take a look at “Word Power: Communicating for Connection.” As parents, we’re familiar with the request for children to “use their words” in all kinds of situations. Often we’re inviting them to practice using verbal expressive language to communicate their needs instead of physical impulses. We’ll go a bit further in this theme and take it to the adult level as we explore the power of words, but specifically look at words that we can use with our children, and anyone, for purposes of connection. Explore the ways you can join us for AP Month! |
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Learn about the research behind this year's theme for AP Month, and get ready to celebrate Attachment Parenting by empowering our children's words. |
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Free online summit - Oct 17 - 19 |
Struggling to help your children connect with one another? Join parenting author Susan Stiffelman for a free series: Raising Siblings. Speakers include Rachel Macy Stafford, Gretchen Rubin, Maggie Dent, Dr. Laura Markham, Amy McCready, Harville Hendrix, Christine Carter, Michael Thompson, Betsy Brown Braun, Elizabeth Lesser and a host of experts in the field. Just click here to sign up! Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
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Darcia Narvaez, professor of psychology in the Notre Dame’s College of Arts and Letters and a fellow in the Institute for Educational Initiatives, has been named one of two winners of the first Expanded Reason Award for research. Darcia Narvaez is also on API's Board of Directors and chairs an international parenting conference with API. Congratulations, Darcia! The award was given by University Francisco de Vitoria and the Joseph Ratzinger/Benedict XVI Vatican Foundation to recognize innovation in scientific research and academic programs based on Benedict XVI’s proposal to broaden the horizons of reason. The university and foundation sought academic works that question and explicitly incorporate reflections on the anthropology, epistemology, ethics and meaning that exist within the specific science. Two awards were given for research, and two were given for academic programs. Narvaez’s book, Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture and Wisdom, was chosen from among more than 360 total entries from 170 universities and 30 countries. Narvaez will receive the prize, including a substantial monetary award, at the Pontifical Academy of Sciences in Vatican City on September 27. See also the Audience with the Pope and the Award Ceremony.
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Feed with Love and Respect
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"Pediatricians’ recommendations and practices became more closely aligned with AAP policy from 1995 to 2014; however, their attitudes about the likelihood of breastfeeding success have worsened. These 2 divergent trends indicate that even as breastfeeding rates continue to rise, continued efforts to enhance pediatricians’ training and attitudes about breastfeeding are necessary." |
Dear Reader,
We are very excited to bring you an AP Month theme that we feel very passionate about--particularly as API has long embraced parenting for a more peaceful world.
In the midst of a world already wrestling with life's natural challenges, our hearts ache for the pain we choose to inflict on each other whether by our fears, confusion, or own pain. It feels as if around us violence grows and solutions whither.
API Leaders, volunteers, professionals, and educators already address the issue of violence on a daily basis, however, this year API takes the month of October to amplify our message about secure attachment and make that connection to the prevention of violence. We'll be talking about conflict and understanding, peace, pain, war, harmony, abuse, reconciliation, nonviolence, listening, sharing, hearing and more. We will present it in essays and images, foster discussion in communities, and take the message to the media at large.
We believe API has a response, an answer, though certainly not all the answers. We believe that consistent and loving care, responding with sensitivity, and nurturing touch go far to foster love and trust, and dissolve hate. The Principles are not an identity or a list, but real actions of relationship that encompass our dearest needs. We practice these in our homes and our communities, with our families and friends and workplaces and be the change, be the difference on a grand scale for generations to come.
Parents tell us that API resources show them a new way - away from yelling, punishment, and stress. API Support Groups encourage parents and serve as a refuge from the challenges and the pressures that seem to fuel even little conflicts. There is something to this Attachment Parenting and this community.
We invite you to join us by contributing and advocating for API's Principles of Parenting this AP Month. Visit AP Month Central, follow the daily tips on APtly Said, contribute your photo to the gallery, help fundraise for API's mission, become an AP Advocate, and take this opportunity to come together, in harmony.
API welcomes newly accredited API Leader, Karin Harvey-Olson, and gratefully recognizes the service of many API Leaders with anniversaries this month and next. We also recognize the long-time service of dear volunteer Stephanie Petters and thank her for advancing the cause so passionately. We would not be where we are without her.
Thank you,
Attachment Parenting International
API Links you to...
This month, we bring you AP Month 2016, the power of parental warmth, the impact of an insecure childhood, black breastfeeding month in review, progress in education, Peace Corps, and peaceful parenting! Read Editor's Picks below, or click through to read all the parenting news and research.
Nurturing Peace
Parenting Educator Training October 18-20 - For Early Rate, Apply by October 4!
We are excited to announce our upcoming training in Brooklyn, New York! Please join us for a three-day Attached at the Heart Parent Education training at Nuture{Bklyn}.
October 18th, 19th and 20th from 9am to 5pm each day.
Application fee is $30 and once approved the training fees are as follows:
Early Bird registration: $400
Late registration: $450 (after October 4th)
CEUs available
What is going on behind closed doors?
... But we do know that violence has to be planted in a person's mind as an acceptable option, in whatever situation. Babies aren't born violent. They are born wired to seek connection. Connection is the opposite of violence. Babies have to learn violence. They have to learn disconnection. They learn to detach as a survival mechanism when their needs aren't meant. There are various degrees of this, as we see in insecure attachment research, and definitely few insecurely attached children grow up to choose violence that makes the news. But that detachment is the first step to accepting violence as an option at all.
BirthWorks
BirthWorks Oct 14-16 Conference with Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson
Hear Nils Bergman, MD speak on the science behind mother/baby skin-to-skin contact in our full day preconference workshop. Come and hear a line-up of amazing speakers who will focus on finding the truths about birth. Be inspired by keynote speakers Joel Evans MD, Michel Odent MD, Lori Feldman-Winter MD, PhD, Jennifer Margulis, Ina May Gaskin, Carol Sakala, Henci Goer, Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson, along with other workshop presenters.
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CAPPA 2016 Conference - October 14-16, Florida
CAPPA's annual conference is enjoyed by doulas, childbirth educators, breastfeeding professionals, midwives, nurses, obstetricians, and others who have an interest in the prenatal and postpartum periods. CAPPA conferences are known for their excellent speakers and learning opportunities, great networking with perinatal professionals from all over the world - register now! #CAPPAConf
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Upcoming Meetings, Trainings, and Events
October (more details)
2016-10-01
Support Meeting for API of Fresno, CA
Location: 5091 N Fresno St. Ste 133 Fresno, California 93710
2016-10-03
Support Meeting Fox Valley API, IL
Location: Radiant Heart Yoga
2016-10-06
Support Meeting for San Diego County API
Location: Solana Beach Library
2016-10-07
Support Meeting for TriCities Parenting, API
Location: Avoca Branch Library, Bristol, TN
2016-10-07
Support Meeting for API of Northern Virginia
Location: Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Fairfax, Oakton, VA
2016-10-08
Support Meeting for API of Seattle
2016-10-09
Support Meeting for San Francisco API
Location: Richmond Library
2016-10-10
Support Meeting for API of Las Vegas, Nevada
Location: Chiropractic for Life
2016-10-11
Support Meetings for Northern Colorado API
Location: Northern Colorado
2016-10-11
Support Meeting for API of Central Iowa
Location: Willowsong Midwifery
2016-09-12
Support Meeting for API of Las Vegas, Nevada
Location: Chiropractic for Life
2016-09-13
Support Meetings for Northern Colorado API
Location: Northern Colorado
2016-09-13
Support Meeting for API of Central Iowa
Location: Willowsong Midwifery
2016-09-13
Support Meeting for API of Topeka, Kansas
Location: Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Topeka
2016-09-13
Support Meeting for API of Central Austin
Location: Yarborough Branch Library
Meetings Continued:
2016-09-13
Support Meeting for South Austin API
Location: Austin Public Library-Manchaca Library Branch
2016-09-14
Support Meeting for API of Brandon, FL
2016-09-16
Support Meeting for API of West LA, CA
Location: Then Sanctuary Birth and Family Wellness Center
2016-09-17
Support Meeting Fox Valley API, IL
Location: Fluffy Envy
2016-09-18
Support Meeting for Nashville API
Location: Blakemore United Methodist Church
2016-09-20
Support Meeting for API of Greater Atlanta
2016-09-24
Support Meeting for API of Las Vegas, Nevada
Location: Well Rounded Mama Homestead
2016-09-27
Support Meeting for API of Central Iowa
Location: Tifereth Israel Synagogue
NewLeadersNew Leaders and Groups:
Congrats to our newest Leader!:
Karin Harvey-Olson
API of Merrimack Valley, NH
Want to Change a Life?
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Leader Anniversaries:
October
Suzy Landreth ~ 5 years
Tina McRorie ~ 6 years
Rebecca Sanjabi ~ 4 years
Amanda Kail ~ 3 years
Laura Meinecke ~ 1 year
Esther Koppel ~ 5 years
Kate Scheller ~ 5 years
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