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Practice Positive Discipline
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"It has been my experience, whether we are communicating with children or adults, that when we see the difference between these two objectives, and we are consciously not trying to get a person to do what we want, but trying to create a quality of mutual concern, a quality of mutual respect, a quality where both parties think that their needs matter and they are conscious that their needs and the other person’s well-being are interdependent – it is amazing how conflicts which otherwise seem unresolvable, are easily resolved." "I’ve talked to a lot of other parents who have had similar experiences who, when they are trying to relate in more human ways with their own children, instead of getting support, often get criticised. People can often mistake what I’m talking about as permissiveness or not giving children the direction they need, instead of understanding that it’s a different quality of direction. It’s a direction that comes from two parties trusting each other, rather than one party forcing his or her authority on another." |
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"Children whose fathers make time to play with them from a very young age may find it easier to control their behavior and emotions as they grow up, research suggests." |
Respond with Sensitivity
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Five things parents can do to promote healthy emotional development during the primary school years from Larry Cohen of Playful Parenting. |
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"Irrespective of the general closeness of the parent-teen relationships, researchers found that teens reported feeling more loved on days when parents reported showing more warmth in the form of affection, understanding, and praise. Likewise, teens reported feeling less loved on days when parents reported more conflict than usual. More importantly, the researchers said, they also found that parents can mitigate the impact of conflict by showing their teen warmth. In other words, on days when parents were warm, high levels of conflict didn’t reduce how loved teens felt. To mitigate conflict, warmth had to be conveyed on the same day — but the warmth and conflict did not need to be related, the researchers found." |
Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
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COVID-19 Resources for Families Staying home with teenagers Family and Home Network offers Transitioning Home workshops Parenting During Times of Stress: What to Watch for and How to Help Time to Come in Bear The Little Gnome Who had to Stay Home Recognizing and Calming Stress The Brain Architects BabyBabyOhBaby Breastfeeding and Infant Massage Breastfeeding Projects Baby Parents Rock and Roll! Free resources Leader Survey Parent Survey Cocooning Sending Love 10 Solutions to Save Your Sanity How to Talk to your Kids Working from Home with Kids Embracing What We Have |
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Thank you to those who took Leader survey #1 (if you had trouble with early access you should be able to access it now). Please respond and let us know how you’re doing and how we can help support you.
We're also releasing a follow-up leader survey that we hope you'll complete too. It's only a couple of minutes to complete Leader survey #2. Thank you.
Highlights from survey #1 to date:
40% increase in support in the last few weeks Zoom, Facebook, Messenger, and phone conversations have replaced in person activity Resources, referrals and encouragement, are related to schooling, working from home, and anxiety Most leader respondents feel balanced No leaders feel they can take on more Interested in become a leader? Learn more.
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An equitable, just, and compassionate world
Talking With Children About Racism, Police Brutality and Protests
Becoming a Parent in the Age of Black Lives Matter
The critical role white parents play in shaping racism — and eradicating it
These Books Can Help You Explain Racism and Protest to Your Kids
To my fellow white parents: how to talk about racism with our kids
L.R.Knost - Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources on Racism
To White Women: 3 Ways To Introduce The Race Conversation To Your Children
Parenting as a Protest Against Hate
How to Talk to Kids About Race & Racism
Only for the Brave? Uncovering White Supremacy
The Traumatic Impact of Racism on Young People and How to Talk About It
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Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
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Attached at the Heart: Eight Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker from Praeclarus Press
Adventures in Tandem Nursing: Breastfeeding During Pregnancy and Beyond - 2nd edition by Hilary Flower
Cuddled and Carried / Consentido y cargado from Platypus Media
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Feed with Love and Respect
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"One key message in the 2020 infant recommendations: No amount of added sugar is OK for a baby's development. "Mother's milk has sugar in it," Abrams said, but it's packed full of immune boosting, infection fighting components and is the perfect combination of fats, proteins, carbohydrates and vitamins for a baby's needs." |
